Don't feel like you need to have everything figured out right now. We ALL figure it out as we go - if anyone tells you different they're either lying, or lead a really boring life. Life is all about experiences - having tons of them, learning from each one, and using all of those lessons to frame and inspire your next move. Ask questions. Don't assume the first answer is the only one, or the right one - questioning leads to growth, every time. Don't beat yourself up if you make a mistake - mistakes are NECESSARY in order to find your place in the world. Perfection is unattainable, not to mention incredibly predictable - and where is the fun in that? Establish relationships and recognize that some don't last forever - keep only the ones that add to and support the life you want to lead. Mostly, identify the thing that gives you energy and inspiration, and never stop doing that thing. Never lose sight of that passion, the driving force that enables you to rise from your bed every morning, wide-eyed and ready to conquer the day. THAT THING is YOUR THING, and no one else's. If you find yourself in a job where that thing you love so much is being compromised, do yourself a favor and work towards finding another job that doesn't put your passions on the back burner. You owe it to yourself to do what you love doing!
Empathy: I've learned to be a great listener and soundboard for people - providing a stress-free, no-judgement-ever space where they can air their frustrations and get some clarity on the situations they're troubled by. Assertiveness: I come from a long line of strong, Italian women who never beat around the bush or refrain from being direct. It's all about the delivery - with respect, poise, and a little charm, being assertive can go a long way (and save everyone lots of time). Curious: I'm a student at heart, forever and always. Learning new things, meeting strangers, trying something for the first time - I'm always looking for more education.
My favorite word is reverie - it means, 'a state of being pleasantly lost in one's thoughts; a daydream.' For me, there's nothing better than losing yourself (even if just for a moment) in a daydream that inspires you in some way, or serves as a means of happiness. Whether it's an old memory or a made-up, imaginary tale, a reverie is how you stay connected to the inner child in you (you know, the one with the big imagination).
Defining my non-negotiables and knowing when to set boundaries. I'm a very Type A person, and I used to find myself saying yes to everything even if when I was too swamped to take it on. Why did I do that? Well, because I'm Type A - and because I never wanted to seem like something was too difficult or out of my scope. The truth is, learning when to say no and how to deliver that message is a CRITICAL part of professional growth. It indicates self-awareness and shows the people around you that you know how to organize your time and stay focused on your priorities.
Memoir Title: I'm Sorry, What Was Your Name? Earlier I mentioned being curious is a trait I'm proud of. If I were to write a memoir, it would definitely be about all of the strangers I've met and the stories they've told me. Yes, I have them all written down in a black notebook that's currently sitting on my desk.
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